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My 3 year old daughter loves clothes. She always has. I don’t know if it’s a girl thing or a personality thing but whereas her brother has never really cared unless he was dressing as a fireman, she has always had strong opinions about what she wear.
She has inherited a lot of hand me downs and I never dressed her consistently girly when she was little but she has always gravitated towards everything pink and sparkly. I remember taking her to get her first shoes at Clarks and her lining up all the glittery light up shoes, as if to say – these ones please Mummy!
One thing I love about her is her sassy, confident, outgoing personality and her ability to fully own whatever crazy combination she put together. For a while, I resisted letting her choose her own outfits that were mismatched, clashing or slightly impractical. Then I stopped and asked myself why. Was it doing any harm? Or was it just a reflection of my inbuilt beliefs about how we ‘should’ dress?
I soon realised that not allowing her to fully express herself because it made me feel a bit embarrassed wasn’t a good enough reason and instead decided to embrace her approach. It’s taught me a lot about my own feelings fashion, my insecurities and opened up a whole new approach to what I wear.
So I’m embracing fashion by her rules and have a picked some fun footwear and spring accessories from JD Williams to enjoy. Here’s what I’ve learnt:
Fashion should be fun – There are so many amazing clothes out there, why limit yourself? I think I spent a long time worrying about how clothes made me look rather than how they made me feel. I’m not saying I don’t still like them to be flattering but I’m a lot less bothered now about them showing off my body rather than my personality.
Colour should be celebrated – Do you ever look in your wardrobe and just see a swathe of black and blandness? Bringing some more colour to my clothes has really lifted my spirits. Some days it’s just an accessory or some metallic shoes and other days I’ll go bright and bold.
I look amazing – My baby girl can strut down the garden path like she is on the runways of Milan. She oozes confidence and because of that, it doesn’t matter what she wears – she looks amazing in it! So often we dress to please others, whether that’s men, friends or bosses. However, I now believe if I love something and feel amazing in it, that is all that matters.
There are no rules – A tutu over some board shorts? A shark tshirt with a ballet skirt? Sure, why not! Miss A has no rules when is comes to fashion. I’ll admit, I’m not quite as out there with my choices but I have made an effort to choose things I love and not feel like I need a certain occasion to wear them. So if I fancy wearing my large pink tassle earrings on the school run, I will!
I love myself – There is nothing quite like the wise words of a 3 year old. Miss A looked in the mirror a few months ago and said: ‘I love myself Mummy. Do you love yourself?’ Of course I said yes but wasn’t completely sure I was being truthful. I used to have an amazing body pre-kids and now I’m heavier, lumpier and saggier. But I am learning to embrace it, treat my body well, dress it in great clothes and love what it has achieved.
Now all I need are some matching outfits with my 3 year old!